Forgiveness: Love Your Enemies

 
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Forgiveness: Love Your Enemies

Focus: We will prove to be disciples of Jesus Christ when we move beyond forgiving our enemies to loving our enemies. 

  1. Love WHO?!

  2. What’s in your lap?

  3. Can the blind lead the blind?

What have we learned so far about forgiveness?

  • We have already seen in Jesus’ encounter with the paralytic that he claims to be God, forgives sins, and heals us.  

  • Forgiveness of sin is our foundational need and healing.  Sin cripples us. 

  • We learned from the parable of the unmerciful servant that everyone needs forgiveness and God makes it available for everyone. 

  • We learned that those who have been forgiven little love little, while those that have been forgiven much love much. 

God’s Word Luke 6:27-42

27 “But I say to you who hear, Love your enemies, do good to those who hate you, 28 bless those who curse you, pray for those who abuse you. 29 To one who strikes you on the cheek, offer the other also, and from one who takes away your cloak do not withhold your tunic either. 30 Give to everyone who begs from you, and from one who takes away your goods do not demand them back. 31 And as you wish that others would do to you, do so to them. 32 “If you love those who love you, what benefit is that to you? For even sinners love those who love them. 33 And if you do good to those who do good to you, what benefit is that to you? For even sinners do the same. 34 And if you lend to those from whom you expect to receive, what credit is that to you? Even sinners lend to sinners, to get back the same amount. 35 But love your enemies, and do good, and lend, expecting nothing in return, and your reward will be great, and you will be sons of the Most High, for he is kind to the ungrateful and the evil. 36 Be merciful, even as your Father is merciful.  37 “Judge not, and you will not be judged; condemn not, and you will not be condemned; forgive, and you will be forgiven; 38 give, and it will be given to you. Good measure, pressed down, shaken together, running over, will be put into your lap. For with the measure you use it will be measured back to you.” 39 He also told them a parable: “Can a blind man lead a blind man? Will they not both fall into a pit? 40 A disciple is not above his teacher, but everyone when he is fully trained will be like his teacher. 41 Why do you see the speck that is in your brother's eye, but do not notice the log that is in your own eye? 42 How can you say to your brother, ‘Brother, let me take out the speck that is in your eye,’ when you yourself do not see the log that is in your own eye? You hypocrite, first take the log out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to take out the speck that is in your brother's eye

Love WHO!? (vs 27-36)

  • When we learn to not only forgive like Jesus does, but love our enemies like He does, we prove ourselves as his disciples becoming useful in His mission of seeking and saving the lost.

  • Jesus promised that his followers who obey his teaching will have enemies.  These enemies persecute them just because they obey Him.  

  • The word “love” in Greek is ‘agape’.  It means to “unselfishly seek the best or higher good for” others.  God promises a great reward in heaven when we love our enemies.  This expectation of reward from God allows us to freely love our enemies here. 

  • An enemy by definition is someone who hates you and actively seeks your harm through insults, slander, humiliation, theft, lawsuits, exclusion, and physical harm. 

  • Love goes beyond a feeling.  It is doing good, speaking blessing, lending and praying for our enemies. (vs 35)

  • When we love and show mercy to the ungrateful and wicked we are allowing the light of Christ to shine through us proving our identity as children of God. (vs 34-36)


What’s in your lap? (vs 37-38)

  • The picture of a ‘full lap’ represents our heart and life. To have a heart full of God’s peace we must have first received forgiveness from Him and then freely given it to others.  We can not keep what we do not give. 

  • The measure and standard we use in judging, condemning, and forgiving others will be that which is used toward us.  We must use God’s standard and not our self-righteous standard  to judge ourselves and others.

  • God’s standard is holy perfection defined by himself.  Only one person has measured up: Jesus Christ.  

  • If we know, live, and judge by God’s standard in Christ Jesus we will walk humbly, be holy, and show mercy to ourselves as well as our enemies. 


Can the blind lead the blind? (vs 39-42)

  • A blind person walking alone is dangerous.   A blind guide leading a blind follower is foolish and prideful.

  • All have sinned and fallen short of God’s holy standard, blinded by Satan and their own rebellion.  

  • Jesus has come as the light in the darkness exposing Satan’s schemes and our hearts.  Only Jesus can heal our blindness, reveal our need for forgiveness, and remove the logs in our eyes so that we may lovingly help others find healing in Him.


Consequently, Christianity does not want us to reduce by one atom the hatred we feel for cruelty and treachery. We ought to hate them. But it does want us to hate them in the same way in which we hate things in ourselves: being sorry that the person should have done such things, and hoping, if it is anyway possible, that somehow, sometime, somewhere they can be cured.

- C.S. Lewis Mere Christianity


Second City Church - Pastor Cole Parleir 2021

Forgiveness: Self Awareness and the Cross

 
 
 

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Forgiveness: Self Awareness and the Cross

Lead Pastor: Rollan Fisher

Focus: We will finally have the freedom to love Jesus and others when we realize how much forgiveness is offered at the cross. 

  • Comparisons

  • Self Awareness and the Cross

  • Forgiven Much to Love Much

Luke 7:36-50

One of the Pharisees asked him to eat with him, and he went into the Pharisee's house and reclined at table. And behold, a woman of the city, who was a sinner, when she learned that he was reclining at table in the Pharisee's house, brought an alabaster flask of ointment, and standing behind him at his feet, weeping, she began to wet his feet with her tears and wiped them with the hair of her head and kissed his feet and anointed them with the ointment.

Now when the Pharisee who had invited him saw this, he said to himself, “If this man were a prophet, he would have known who and what sort of woman this is who is touching him, for she is a sinner.” And Jesus answering said to him, “Simon, I have something to say to you.” And he answered, “Say it, Teacher.” 41 “A certain moneylender had two debtors. One owed five hundred denarii, and the other fifty. 42 When they could not pay, he cancelled the debt of both. Now which of them will love him more?” Simon answered, “The one, I suppose, for whom he cancelled the larger debt.” And he said to him, “You have judged rightly.”

Then turning toward the woman he said to Simon, “Do you see this woman? I entered your house; you gave me no water for my feet, but she has wet my feet with her tears and wiped them with her hair. 45 You gave me no kiss, but from the time I came in she has not ceased to kiss my feet. 46 You did not anoint my head with oil, but she has anointed my feet with ointment. 47

Therefore I tell you, her sins, which are many, are forgiven—for she loved much. But he who is forgiven little, loves little.” And he said to her, “Your sins are forgiven.” Then those who were at table with him began to say among themselves, “Who is this, who even forgives sins?” And he said to the woman, “Your faith has saved you; go in peace.”

Comparisons

Comparisons can be good for godly motivation or destructive separation. 

Comparisons provide godly motivation when they propel you to a greater love for Jesus and others.  

Comparisons are destructive when they produce judgments towards others giving you a false sense of superiority, value or worth.  

Jesus was providing godly motivation for the Pharisees by comparing their love to the gratitude of the sinful woman.  

He allowed no mention of the woman’s sin being greater than that of the Pharisees’.  

Christ is our standard for righteousness. 

The only person to whom we should ever compare ourselves is Jesus, who will be our ultimate judge (John 5:22, 23).  

In this we are both humbled and liberated knowing that Christ has come to be our glorious Savior.  

This allows us to relate with those who were formerly natural enemies and covenant with those who have been likewise redeemed, living now under the Lordship of Christ. 

You are Closer than You Think

“The reason there are so many exhortations in the New Testament for Christians to love other Christians is because . . . the church itself is not made up of natural “friends.” It is made up of natural enemies. What binds us together is not common education, common race, common income levels, common politics, common nationality, common accents, common jobs, or anything else of that sort. Christians come together not because they form a natural collocation, but because they have all been saved by Jesus Christ and owe him a common allegiance. In this light we are a band of natural enemies who love one another for Jesus’ sake. That is the only reason why John 13:34–35 makes sense when Jesus says: “A new command I give you—Love one another as I have loved you.”’ . . . Christian love will stand out and bear witness to Jesus because it is a display, for Jesus’ sake, of mutual love among social incompatibles.“

-Don Carson

So again, it does not matter another’s income, education or achievement level - if you think yourself morally superior, then you’ve become their judge, and the poisoning of your relationship ultimately follows.

Beware the trap of the Pharisees. 

The Pharisees were religious, but their comparisons drove people away from God rather than towards him.  

So what can come against such a supernatural testimony and display to which Don Carson refers?

A lack of self awareness. 

Self-Awareness and the Cross

We all need a dose of self-awareness realizing that the cross of Christ is the great leveling agent of humanity.  

The self awareness that Jesus was bringing to the Pharisees was to result in a greater love for God and others on whom they would naturally place judgment. 

In the woman’s case above, Jesus was clearly placing a premium on humility, self-awareness and an indebted sense of devotion to God.  

We all need to have a greater awareness of our own sin. 

When we are truly walking in the revelation of the forgiveness of Jesus, an awareness of our own sin does not lead to further condemnation, but a greater sense of liberty and desire for obedience because of God’s grace towards us.  

As with the sinful woman, the kindness shown to us is what provokes us to love Jesus and others more out of great gratitude towards God.  

A greater awareness of our sin keeps the cross of Christ at the center of our thoughts and the joy of our salvation in our hearts.  

No one is too high and no one is too low to lack the need of the cross of Christ. 

Without an awareness of our common need for forgiveness, divisions abound in relationships and society at large. 

“Forgiveness flounders because I exclude the enemy from the community of humans even as I exclude myself from the community of sinners. But no one can be in the presence of the God of the crucified Messiah for long without overcoming this double exclusion—without transposing the enemy from the sphere of monstrous inhumanity into the sphere of shared humanity and herself from the sphere of proud innocence into the sphere of common sinfulness. When one knows that the torturer will not eternally triumph over the victim, one is free to rediscover that person’s humanity and imitate God’s love for him. And when one knows that God’s love is greater than all sin, one is free to see oneself . . . and so rediscover one’s own sinfulness.”

-Miroslav Volf

Don’t forget yourself. 

The opposite of humility is self-righteousness. 

Remembering others’ sin but not our own is pride.

Self-righteousness is a sin which sets your internal estimation of yourself in superiority to those who surround you.

It leads to a vitriolic condemnation of others and cuts off our ability to appeal to them on the basis of the gospel of Christ.  

Never exalt singular issues or agendas over the gospel of Christ (I Corinthians 15). 

The reality is that we live in a fallen world and people will sin.  

The hope for the nations is to change hearts and not just policies. 

Our job is to remain in Christ and in a posture to love sinners, build bridges and bring them home to God through repentance and faith in Jesus.  

The Pharisees' lack of self-awareness prevented them from doing so with the sinful woman.  

So again, beware the trap of the Pharisees. 

The Pharisees were religious, but their lack of self-awareness built divisions rather than bridges between themselves and others.    

Forgiven Much to Love Much

We will love Jesus and others fervently when we realize that God has treated us undeservedly.  

Luke 18:9-14

He also told this parable to some who trusted in themselves that they were righteous, and treated others with contempt: 10 “Two men went up into the temple to pray, one a Pharisee and the other a tax collector. 11 The Pharisee, standing by himself, prayed thus: ‘God, I thank you that I am not like other men, extortioners, unjust, adulterers, or even like this tax collector. 12 I fast twice a week; I give tithes of all that I get.’ 13 But the tax collector, standing far off, would not even lift up his eyes to heaven, but beat his breast, saying, ‘God, be merciful to me, a sinner!’ 14 I tell you, this man went down to his house justified, rather than the other. For everyone who exalts himself will be humbled, but the one who humbles himself will be exalted.”

We are to fight the battles of the Lord, but realize that in any contest of ideas, both parties need to be taken to not only the judgment seat, but also the cross of Christ for an opportunity to find mercy through repentance. 

When I am emptied of self-righteousness, I can be filled with the love needed to lead others to such faith in Jesus.   

This love provides me the ability to speak the truth with Christ’s and others interests in mind, knowing that God will look out for and exalt me as I do so.  

I know that if I humble myself before God and in my treatment towards others, God himself will work on the behalf of righteousness in my situation.  

If I am godless or self-righteous in my treatment towards others, God will humble me and frustrate my cause.  

Proverbs 24:17-18

Do not rejoice when your enemy falls, and let not your heart be glad when he stumbles, lest the Lord see it and be displeased, and turn away his anger from him.

Again, beware the trap of the Pharisees. 

The above Pharisee was religious, but his self-righteousness brought the displeasure of God rather than his approval.  

There is a difference between confidence and arrogance.  

We should have great strength produced from our confidence in God.  

However, we want to forever make our boasts in Christ alone (I Corinthians 1).  

The closer you get to God, his purity and his holiness, the greater awareness you have of your own shortcomings and sin.  

Self-righteousness is a tell-tale indicator of one’s true proximity to God.  

We have the ability to walk in the freedom of forgiveness even when we don’t see eye to eye with others.  

Living a life of forgiveness does not mean that you agree about everything, but that you learn to live graciously and lovingly towards one another. 

When God has clearly spoken in his word, he demands obedience. 

Where there is Biblical silence, there is room for discussion based on the character, ways and heart of God so that we might be led by the Holy Spirit and find the mind of Christ.  

The only agreement that is imperative is agreeing with God and his word.  

And in this word we are commanded to be reconciled with God and one another through the cross of Jesus Christ.  

Why?

Because as Martin Luther King wrote, 

“He who is devoid of the power to forgive is devoid of the power of love. . . .We can never say, ‘I will forgive you, but I won’t have anything further to do with you.’ Forgiveness means reconciliation, and coming together again.”

So let’s pursue love of both Christ and one another today being humbled by the cross and strengthened by God’s great forgiveness offered to us. 

 

 Second City Church - Pastor Rollan Fisher 2021

Forgiveness: The Healing of Paralysis

 
 
 

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Forgiveness: The Healing of Paralysis 

Lead Pastor: Rollan Fisher

Focus: We will be healed from that which cripples us when we experience and express the forgiveness of Christ. 

Sin that Cripples

Forgiveness as the Real Need

Jesus the True Friend
 

Mark 2:1-12 

And when he returned to Capernaum after some days, it was reported that he was at home. And many were gathered together, so that there was no more room, not even at the door. And he was preaching the word to them. 

And they came, bringing to him a paralytic carried by four men. And when they could not get near him because of the crowd, they removed the roof above him, and when they had made an opening, they let down the bed on which the paralytic lay. 

And when Jesus saw their faith, he said to the paralytic, “Son, your sins are forgiven.” Now some of the scribes were sitting there, questioning in their hearts, “Why does this man speak like that? He is blaspheming! Who can forgive sins but God alone?” 

And immediately Jesus, perceiving in his spirit that they thus questioned within themselves, said to them, “Why do you question these things in your hearts? Which is easier, to say to the paralytic, ‘Your sins are forgiven,’ or to say, ‘Rise, take up your bed and walk’? 

But that you may know that the Son of Man has authority on earth to forgive sins” —he said to the paralytic— “I say to you, rise, pick up your bed, and go home.” And he rose and immediately picked up his bed and went out before them all, so that they were all amazed and glorified God, saying, “We never saw anything like this!”

Sin that Cripples

The importance of forgiveness:

“There were centuries and centuries . . . in which the Christian notion of forgiveness was not a part of anybody’s culture — the unconditional starting afresh, forgiving, forgetting, and how that practice ought to work. . . . But I think it’s the only way civil society really hangs together. If we continually deny people the opportunity to have an identity apart from their punish-identity, then you’re inviting them to . . . permanently inhabit that failure. 

In other words, not to change. And even if they do change because they are good-hearted, they will not be able to reconcile with anyone as long as they are presented with an identity that is attached to their failure.”

-The New York Times columnist Elizabeth Bruenig

Forgiveness as the Real Need

“Without being forgiven, released from the consequences of what we have done, our capacity to act would, as it were, be confined to one single deed from which we could never recover; we would remain the victims of its consequences forever, not unlike the sorcerer’s apprentice who lacked the magic formula to break the spell.”

-Hannah Arendt, a Jewish political philosopher writing after the Holocaust

Who do you need to forgive today for your own healing?

Jesus the True Friend

Though these friends brought the paralytic to Jesus to be healed of his paralysis, Jesus is the true friend who brings us to the Heavenly Father to be absolved of our sin.

At the cross, Jesus tore a hole is the cosmic roof separating you from God.

The idolatry of self keeps us from moving forward in God.

When we are more consumed with our own estimations of ourselves than what God says about us, we are paralyzed with self-loathing, fear and despair.

It often comes down to esteeming an image of yourself greater than the one 

“When people say, "I know God forgives me, but I can't forgive myself," they mean that they have failed an idol, whose approval is more important than God's.”

― Timothy Keller, Counterfeit Gods: The Empty Promises of Money, Sex, and Power, and the Only Hope that Matters

 

You can be that type of friend to others, helping them come to the cross of Jesus to find healing from their sin and paralysis in life.

 Second City Church - Pastor Rollan Fisher 2021

Forgiveness: The Great Debtor Society

 
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Forgiveness: The Great Debtor Society

 Lead Pastor: Rollan Fisher

Focus: We will be expressions of the grace of God when we remember the great debt that Jesus Christ paid for us.

  • The Great Debtor Society

  • Who Has the Greater Debt?

  • Fully Paid

Matthew 18:21-35  

Then Peter came up and said to him, “Lord, how often will my brother sin against me, and I forgive him? As many as seven times?” Jesus said to him, “I do not say to you seven times, but seventy-seven times. 

23 “Therefore the kingdom of heaven may be compared to a king who wished to settle accounts with his servants. 

24 When he began to settle, one was brought to him who owed him ten thousand talents. 

25 And since he could not pay, his master ordered him to be sold, with his wife and children and all that he had, and payment to be made. 

26 So the servant fell on his knees, imploring him, ‘Have patience with me, and I will pay you everything.’ 

27 And out of pity for him, the master of that servant released him and forgave him the debt. 

28 But when that same servant went out, he found one of his fellow servants who owed him a hundred denarii, and seizing him, he began to choke him, saying, ‘Pay what you owe.’ 

29 So his fellow servant fell down and pleaded with him, ‘Have patience with me, and I will pay you.’ 

30 He refused and went and put him in prison until he should pay the debt. 

31 When his fellow servants saw what had taken place, they were greatly distressed, and they went and reported to their master all that had taken place. 

32 Then his master summoned him and said to him, ‘You wicked servant! I forgave you all that debt because you pleaded with me. 

33 And should not you have had mercy on your fellow servant, as I had mercy on you?’ 

34 And in anger his master delivered him to the jailers, until he should pay all his debt. 

35 So also my heavenly Father will do to every one of you, if you do not forgive your brother from your heart.”

The Great Debtor Society

We are all great debtors to whom others also owe debts.

When we think of debt, we think of it at something that we owe someone financially, or some  honor that they are due from us for good that they’ve loaned us to literally save or make our existence better, or to literally save them.

We are in debt to God when we sin against him by breaking his commands, mishandling the relationships, opportunities and resources that he’s give us to use for his glory.

We are in debt to others when we’ve sinned against them in some way.

Forgiveness is the mercy of God absolving us of the debt that we can never pay to make things right with him.

Our good works would continually fall short of his perfection and our motivations are like filthy rags used to clean our stains.

Who Has the Greater Debt?

We are rough with others when we forget our own debt before God. 

At the heart of the gospel, Jesus Christ, who alone was completely innocent, proactively pursued reconciliation, offering forgiveness and healing to those who would falsely accuse and murder him.

Without a Biblical orientation regarding forgiveness, cries for righteousness and justice turn into cycles of vindictiveness rather than healing. 

The damaging cycle of vindictiveness: 

“When a society rejects the Christian account of who we are, it doesn’t become less moralistic but far more so, because it retains an inchoate sense of justice but has no means of offering and receiving forgiveness. The great moral crisis of our time is not, as many of my fellow Christians believe, sexual licentiousness, but rather vindictiveness. Social media serve as crack for moralists: there’s no high like the high you get from punishing malefactors. But like every addiction, this one suffers from the inexorable law of diminishing returns. The mania for punishment will therefore get worse before it gets better.”

-Alan Jacobs

The results of such vindictiveness:

We’ve served in some way and others have not pulled their weight.

*The relationships that we so desperately need will be cut off if we are full of judgment and offense towards others. 

 

*This is a truth we must embrace:

If you continually hold people in your debt because of what they’ve done to you or how they’ve failed you, God will hold you accountable for the debt that you have before him (v. 31-35).  

*We are most irritable, isolated and lonely when we focus on other people’s sin rather than our own.  

*We are most healthy in relationships when we focus on the pity Christ expressed towards us and the great effort he made to reconcile great offenders to himself through the cross.  

Forgiveness will always begin with a choice followed by a feeling. 

Forgiveness begins with the humility to acknowledge that found in similar circumstances, but for the grace of God, we have done or might have done similar things to those who have sinned against us. 

Even if you can not fathom the sin of others, reflecting on your own debt before God makes you merciful towards others.  

We create our own prisons when we fail to forgive. 

There is no moving forward in relationships in life without forgiveness. 

Who do we need to pursue for reconciliation, forgiveness and healing?

Fully Paid

Because of Christ, your debts and the debts of those who owe you can be fully paid at the cross. 

Now we spend our lives working off that debt in love toward others showing them the same grace that God himself has shown us. 

When we look to the cross, we are able to treat others with the same grace that we ourselves hope to receive from Jesus. 

The Unifying Power of the Grace of Christ

“Our community with one another [in Christ] consists solely in what Christ has done to both of us. Christian brotherhood is a spiritual and not a human reality. In this it differs from all other communities.”

-Deitrich Bonhoeffer

Forgiveness does not mean you do not address sin. 

2 Timothy 2:19 

But God's firm foundation stands, bearing this seal: “The Lord knows those who are his,” and, “Let everyone who names the name of the Lord depart from iniquity.”

 

Yet there is a life altering difference between building your life on seeking forgiveness and building it on seeking revenge.  

There is a healing power in forgiveness, both for you and the recipient of your forgiveness. 

Supernatural examples of the grace of God through forgiveness:

  • Shootings in Charleston, South Carolina June, 2015

  • Shootings in the Amish community in Pennsylvania - 2006

 

Let’s meet Jesus at the cross today to both receive and be empowered to give such grace.  

 Second City Church - Pastor Rollan Fisher 2021